So yesterday I had a miscarriage and I wasn't TOO upset because I wasn't too psyched on the idea of having a new baby (especially in the dead of winter) so soon after my first one. BUT as the time had gone on, mind you I'm talking a week, I had started to come around to the idea and was starting to look forward to the little rascal. Guess there was something wrong with the baby-to-be or my body wasn't ready after all cause resident numero due was kicked out.
I can understand how this could take a huge emotional toll on someone who had their heart set on a baby. Even though I wasn't super down with the idea it still stung a little bit. But what people fail to really tell you is how physically unhappy the whole process is. We're not talking about period cramps, we're talking major major cramps and I was only 6 weeks or so. For someone even further along it would even worse I can imagine.
And let's not forget that it does not end in one day. No my friends this process can take weeks, about two for most people. First the miscarriage, then your missed period soon follows, the nurse explained to me. So much fun I think I'll ask God to come back as a boy next time around!
Jackie miscarried at 5, almost 6 months. It was horrible. I was away in training and didn't find out until the next day. She actually lost like 5 and a half pints of blood and almost died. The emotional toll on her was harder than it was on me, at the time. After all, she carried the little nugget for almost 6 months, I was jus the donor--no real bond yet for me. But, today, almost 3 years later, I think about it all the time--I think about how bad I would have loved to have another child and I miss the baby--even though I never met him/her. I got fixed after that because I never want her to go through that again. I feel for you women that go through this--and yes the physical toll is quite large. Jackie took a few weeks to recover....anyhow, thanks for the post.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear that Tim! What a horrible experience. Give Jackie a hug from me and I hope that one day you can recover from this. Hugs to you both!
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